Wise women know how to let go of things that don't suit them. They understand that even if they are reluctant to keep it, they may be unable to use it themselves; sometimes, it becomes a burden. They can only live more comfortably when they can let go of the following three types of "emotions":
1. Let go of emotions that should not appear
Once you get married, you'll realize that family life isn't always as beautiful as fiction. In particular, the love of the middle-aged couple gradually fades no matter how deep they were before, not to mention the conflicts that arise that make them disappointed; the reason why the two are together is only for the sake of peace—Family warmth. While life is full of temptations, some women cannot resist the temptation of a person of the opposite sex and put themselves in a dangerous situation.
Because they do not understand their husbands and family members, because of the boredom in life, middle-aged women will quickly soften when they receive little care and attention from them. But the feelings that arise outside of marriage are destructive, meaning that a woman will fall from heaven to hell and become a woman despised by her family and children. Therefore, no matter who you want to be with, you should give up; if you are determined to follow the call of your heart, then end your marriage well first; otherwise, it will be unfair to everyone.
2. Let go of your excessive maternal affection
The child is born from the mother's flesh and blood, so the mother will also love her child and want to give her child the best. However, as a middle-aged woman, it's time for you to let go of your excessive love for your children so that they can be independent and free (within the framework) because Taoism once mentioned a person's's Mothers are too benevolent to have many naughty children.
If you want to be friendly to your children, it's best to put aside pity and not pamper them too much. Strict demands on children from an early age can prevent them from detaining the path to adulthood. Otherwise, you will find it increasingly difficult for your children to discipline and ignore you.
In addition, letting go of excessive maternal love is also an opportunity for you to live for yourself more, lighter and more leisurely to do the things you want, to regenerate energy and joy for life.
3. Abandon dependence on men
In life, many women live dependently, so they can't stand firm when something goes wrong. That said, never expect too much from others; your parents will eventually age, and the person who loves you can change. No one can guarantee to protect you forever. The only person you trust entirely is yourself.
In marriage, many people have the idea of getting married to depend on so as not to be tired of life. They think that is the most secure, but whether that dependence is long-lasting and durable, you do not know.
Wise women understand that, depending on men, they will push themselves into a passive position, unable to do what they like freely. Your life will only revolve around that person; there is no meaning anymore.
A woman who only wants to rely on men is always timid and has no voice; you will gradually be different from the thought and lifestyles you have. Gradually, you will also be disappointed with yourself and feel too tired of what you have.
4. Give up on someone who doesn't love you
Love is always unfair; people will not love you because you wait but can love another person to the point of pain because of being unrequited.
In many marriages, women have suffered a catastrophic failure. At first, perhaps the man also loves them, but gradually the feelings change. Women realize that but don't dare to let go. They continue to try to hold on to an expired marriage, to hold on to the man who no longer gives her love. In the end, it is they who suffer the most.
As a woman facing a man who no longer loves her, she should learn to let go. Love or not is your choice, so bravely throw away rotten love, regain confidence and find yourself again.